The Whole of the Relationship

The love that Jesus has for each and every one of us is hard to explain. Try to look at all relationships and visualize a pie chart where a whole portion would equal 100%. A husband and a wife share a bond that no one else understands. Sure, people might try to explain how much they are in love with their significant other, but the audience does not have the experience of what makes their love and life together work. My wife and I share a special bond that no one else can understand. You can’t understand it because you are not in my shoes or in my wife’s shoes (unless my wife is reading this).

The point I am trying to make is simple, we all share special connections with everyone that we know. In most of these connections, there is a mutual 50/50 given on either end. My friends and I share 50% of the job of making our relationship work. If I am only producing a partial amount of what is needed to successfully have a friendship, then the friendship status will diminish after a prolonged period of neglect on my part. Some connections are very special and are unique, like in the case of husbands and wives. I know that not all situations are like this and some relationships end without the type of love or effort that I am talking about, but I am speaking from experience of my own marriage and only hope that it helps you find direction in your own relationships. A marriage isn’t about making everything equal, but rather about both parties striving to give 100% together. There are times that I, as a husband, might not be able to give my full self to my marriage every day. I might be physically injured, have an illness, or might have lost a loved one recently that distracts me from my life. There are even day to day things like a bad headache, a long delay in traffic, or even just waking up on the wrong side of the bed. The fact is that distractions in life tend to take us away from what should be a primary focus of our day.

Marriage is a difficult topic to explain when you are not involved in the relationship that is being discussed. You are just an outsider looking in. Just like marriage, your relationship with Jesus is similar, except much more extraordinary. In a marriage, while the other spouse might be able to pick up the slack of the other at various times throughout the marriage, Christ has already taken care of his end of the relationship. Instead of you needing to contribute 100% or 50% or even 20%, all you need to do is rely on Christ for everything and he will take care of the rest. You see, Christ already gives 100% whether you know it or not because he loves you unconditionally. The truth is Jesus gave his life so he could have an eternal relationship with you. He has truly given everything.

How do I know?

Well, I’m in a relationship with Christ – and it would be a little difficult to explain because Christ and I share a bond that no one else can understand.

You cannot get into my shoes or even look to me for the answers. I cannot answer the most important question of your life for you. It is up to you. What I can tell you is that Jesus is waiting. He is waiting to give you his 100%.